By Bisola Bello
An average sexually active individual thinks about sex at least once a day. There are many reasons for this. Naturally, sex feels good. Spiritually, one must consummate. Scientifically, sex can help boost the immune system, fertility and life span.
Even though sex between CONSENTING ADULT partners is filled with so much advantages, some people complain about not being sexually satisfied.
Below are 10 ways you and your partner can enjoy sex.
- Be mentally ready
Like everything humans do, you must be mentally prepared to have sex. Acting like it’s a work for your body is like telling your ears hearing is a job for the eyes. You must program your entire sense to want to enjoy sex. Your mind, body and soul must be one. They should work together to satisfy your genital. When your mind is letting it known to you it is enjoyable then you can work on the rest.
- Be sexy, feel sexy
It doesn’t matter what other people think about you, you are with a partner that finds you attractive enough to want to have sex with you. Ignore the port belly and the stretchmarks. Just feel sexy. It wouldn’t hurt to wear something intensely attractive; it could be your partners’ favourite colour. For a lady its easy put on your partner polo or t-shirt. Make sure you are braless, unhooking the bra is a waste of time. A sexy pant will do. It can be G-string or full; doesn’t really matter. However the work doesn’t end with you being sexy. You have to feel sexy. We talked about being mentally ready earlier. It also works here. You can be anyone you want to be when you are about to have sex.
- Talk to your partner
Most couple don’t enjoy sex because they fail to communicate with each other. It is very essential that when in a sexual relationship you and your partner talk. Talk about what you like and how you like it. It might take a while to know exactly how your partner wants to have sex but at the end of the day both parties win. Talk about your sexual fantasies, what you want between the sheets and practice it with your partner. It increases sexual satisfaction.
- Change sex position
Most couples are stuck to the old life of missionary. Rotate your styles but don’t lose the mood, from donkey ride to doggy, switch to cowboy as you may wish but keep the sex interesting. If you’re worried about not being flexible enough or about the pain, then invent new styles. Finding new ways to please each other brings couples closer. If still at awe at the various positions, do a little research. It is worth it. See how it’s done and engage your partner.
- Use gel assistance
Some people get wet than others. Some people dry up very easily especially women that have falling oestrogen after pregnancy and this can sometimes be a killjoy while having sex. Fear not! Using a lubricant also known as sex gel can help you through the ride. It can be used by both the male and female partner as you both please.
- Role playing
It’s no fun being mummy and daddy all the time, spice up your sex life in more ways than one. Switch roles from being a sexy maid to being a naughty school girl, a secretary and so on. It never ends. A wise man once said every man wants a wife in the kitchen and a freak in the sheets.
- Go all Christian Grey
Quoting the popular movie Fifty Shades of Grey, no one has sex better than Christian Grey. A little bit of erotica wouldn’t kill the relationship. Pleasure in ways you wouldn’t have to use your partners’ private property. But in this case look for ways to satisfy both parties with little toys. This gives arousal at the highest level and also increases satisfaction. Ejaculation is almost guaranteed for both male and female.
- Do yoga
Yoga has been proven to be a form of exercise that tones the muscles and helps the human flexibility. To have good sex and be satisfied you need to exercise your body. Sex naturally is an exercise but if you plan to last long in bed and be satisfied, you should try and tone your pelvic muscles.
- Be adventurous
Sex is not made for the bedroom alone. Switch the daily routine of getting ready to sleep then have sex on the bed. You don’t necessarily have to go to the public though. It wouldn’t hurt to add life to your relationship but think about the kitchen, bath tub or even couch. That gives room for different sexual positions.
- Satisfying safe sex
There are so many things you’d like to prevent when having sex. From STD to unwanted pregnancy. The thought alone hinders some people from enjoying sex or being satisfied with it at the end. Research has proven that condoms prevent 83% of STD. Knowing the type of condom that best suits you can help you enjoy sex. You can even play fun games with condoms.
