By Bisola Bello
Most people turn into another version of themselves after a breakup. Mopping around and refusing to eat becomes a daily routine. There are advantages to being single, and knowing them could shake up your dull mood.
1. Opportunity to learn something new
Being a couple means you tend to attend to your needs and your partner’s, work in sync with partner and cope with what your partner likes or doesn’t. After a break up there is room for you to stop pretending you actually like something and actually do what you want. You can be yourself entirely without asking for a second opinion.
2. You’ll learn from your past relationship
Fighting, accusations, threats, and alienation often mark the end of a relationship. In the single state, there’s room to reflect on the past mistakes and figure out how to make your next relationship better. Relationships are about two people. And even when they end sourly because of one person’s misbehaviour, resist the urge to point fingers at the ex. Instead, figure out your failings and work actively to improve upon them.
3. You’ll want to be a better person
Because of uncertainty and your questioning where it all went wrong, your subconscious automatically wants to make things better thus making you want to be a better person. With the hope that who you are now will make the next relationship work.
4. You’ll fuel your passions.
Couples tend to live two lives: their life within the relationship, and their pursuits, interests and friendships outside of it. And more often than not, the result is that they are short on time. Newly single, you will have more free time to rediscover interests and hobbies.
5. You’ll reconnect with old friends.
Many couples, unintentionally, retreat unto themselves. They are comfortable with their partner, and unknowingly disconnect from lifelong friends and family for months or even years. Being single gives you time to get back to people who love you despite all your faults. It gives you time to reconnect with them and make up for loss times.
6. You’ll learn the power of prayer.
It is very interesting how people become more prayerful when they are single. The wisdom to do right becomes a new prayer point. Being single can bring you closer to God. You tend to communicate with God more when you have fewer things occupying your mind.
7. Opportunity to meet someone better
When in a relationship, you tend to get blind to your partner’s fault. Loving eyes do not see. Being single gives room for more opportunities, if only you have learnt from your past experience.
If one is fortunate enough you find someone who is better than the person you left or who left you.
