Why wait till you are married before a man showers you with expensive gifts? That is the psychology many Nigerian female undergraduates live by.
The dwindling economy is also not helping desperate young women who want to live the champagne and caviar lifestyle their parents cannot afford.
These ladies can’t foot their very expensive bills of high end clothing, expensive dinner and bank breaking gadgets so they seek the help of sugar daddies to pick the tabs.
It not an easy route trying to get in contact with wealthy older men; as a result, some of these ladies connect with their clients through pimps.
Trigga, a hustler in his 20s who operates from Lagos tells Qed.ng how these ladies meet their targets through men like him. While most people address him as a pimp, he says: “No one uses the word pimp anymore. That word makes it seem like you are in the 90s and it feels a lot like you are in the business of prostitution. No one likes that.”
So what are the people who arrange young viable ladies for older rich men called? Trigga has a ready answer: “The intermediary”.
According to him, “not that it is a name that catches on, but that is exactly who we are. We are the bridge between the rich men and the girls.”
If you were wondering how to determine which girl is up for selling herself for money, Trigga volunteers that it is not rocket science; it is about being “smart”.
So how does Trigga get his list of girls? He says: “Thank God for technology. I befriend a lot of girls. Most of these girls I get them through social media networks – Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. I add them up on BBM and we start a conversation. I don’t try to date them so they don’t delete me before I get a chance to introduce them to my clients.”
He continues: “We only establish friendship. Talking to a girl once or twice, I determine if she is someone who might be interested in making a few bucks.”
So how exactly does the relationship start? Trigga who seems to revel in his job as the intermediary discloses “I put a girl’s image as my BBM display picture (dp). I already have the contacts of my Ogas. If any one of them likes the girl, they ping me and say ‘what’s up with that girl, can she be arranged?’ If I already know her as the type that can do the job, I refer her, not before I collect my share though.”
When we asked Trigga how much he gets paid for “arranging” a girl he says “Believe me it’s a reasonable amount of zeros and it is worth it.”
He has a method for approaching any girl that is new to the game.
“There is always a Jew,” Trigga says. “If I put up a girl on my dp and my chairman likes her, I ping the girl in question. If she has never done that before, I simply tell her “hey, someone I know is digging you, will you like to get his contact”. Girls are in the habit of asking who, where, what and all those things. All I just end the conversation with is ‘he is very rich’. Most girls take the bait and the work is done. Some, however, will forever say NO, and I have to get someone else for my chairman. The funny thing is if my chairman is really interested in the Jew, he will offer me any amount just to have her.”
What if he can’t get his client the girl he wants, the intermediary says “That’s my loss, I can’t force the girl if she doesn’t heed to my persuasion.”
After the arrangement Trigga says sometimes these girl’s shower him with thank you gifts after their status have been elevated.
The intermediary seems to have it easy but how exactly do these sugar babies – otherwise known as “Runs Babe” or “Olosho” – get men to lavish them with gifts?
Jenifa (not real name), also in her 20s, reveals that dating an older man is similar to dating a younger man. According to her, the only difference is older men spend more. “I don’t get what the fuss is really,” she begins. “It’s not like dating older men is anything bad. And saying I’m having sex for money is just creepy. If I was dating a younger man, he would have sex with me, tons of times. Dating an older man means I get to have sex with him and enjoy loads of benefits.”
Recalling how she met her first sugar daddy through an intermediary, Jenifa says “I was dating a ‘Yahoo Yahoo’ guy at the time. He was cool and he lavished some stuff on me. He bought me the latest phone then but that was about it. I remember this dude pinging me and saying I look beautiful and all and someone wanting to meet me. Honestly I thought he was a younger guy; I didn’t know he was old or anything. He actually arranged a meeting and we met up at a club.”
She continues: “Alas, it was an older man. Very weird, I felt embarrassed at first but he took me out. He got me several gifts and even got gifts for his wife telling me ‘oh! This is for your Iyale (older wife)’. I was shocked, but I went with the flow. After the whole outing he gave me N20,000 for taxi because he could not drop me at home. At that time, I was thinking that I did not have sex with this man and I just got 20k on a date. I called the person that introduced us and he said if I play ball things will get better.
“I just thought about it, my ‘Yahoo Yahoo’ boyfriend is okay and all but he wouldn’t give me 10k for taxi so why shouldn’t I take advantage of this opportunity?”
“Second, third date after sex, I had a new phone, vacationed in Abuja and over 200k in my account. That was it.”
On if she is still in contact with her first intermediary, she says “Yes definitely, are you kidding, we are pals for life. We hang out all the time.”
Jenifa also discloses that students choose to date multiple older men and can also date only one older man if he can afford to foot your bills.
To her, one man can get you a car, a luxury apartment and fund your trips.
“Sometimes you don’t need five men to sponsor your life. If you catch a very big fish, he will do all that without batting an eyelid.”
How exactly do these girls get these older men to satisfy their needs, Jenifa says “it is more like a return on investment. Older men need to feel young. If you satisfy him very well in bed, he tends to appreciate you by showering you with gifts. More so, you have to know how and when to ask.”
Revealing how and when to ask, Jennifa says, “Don’t ask when he is in a bad mood or after sex. Ask during sex; use your womanly skills to get what you want. I am sure you watch movies. It is not far from that.”
Another sugar baby, Kate (not real name), however, says some men will never fall for that trick. “Some men are naturally stingy and only want to give you 50k or less after sex. That’s your bad luck. A man that really likes you and is generous will really spend for you.”
On whether these tricks are the guarantee to landing you the luxury lifestyle, Kate says “No, it’s not that easy, this is Nigeria, most men are not stupid and their families are not dumb. Some ladies resort to using charm to get what they want from men.”
Kate, who has a luxury apartment on the Island, a very expensive car and her own boutique seems to have it easy but she says all those things do not come easy.
“People seem to think we just have these gifts handed to us. No, we don’t. It takes a lot of hard work and before you say it is not exactly work, I will tell you, it is. Older men have annoying tastes that do not exactly belong in this generation. Their sexual thinking is off by 20 years and I as a girlfriend have to work hard to ensure a flow in our relationship.”
She continues: “Another unbelievable thing is they actually act more like boys than men. They get jealous and want you on every trip even when you have other engagements.”
When asked if it is really worth it, Kate says, “I always say these, there is no difference between sleeping with a young man and an old man. Why would I want to sleep with 10 young men before marriage and not get anything out of it? With older men, I know where I stand.
“To answer your question, yes it is worth it.”
Both young women conclude that they are constantly reminded of the risks of having multiple sex partners; they try her best to use preventive measures even at the men of losing big spenders who insist on unprotected intercourse.
